The Original 40 Questions

From the 1991 Pilot Study

In 2015, the New York Times published "The 36 Questions That Lead to Love" based on psychologist Arthur Aron's research. But there's more to the story...

We dug through the dusty archives and found the original 40 questions from Aron's 1991 pilot study—the ones actually designed to generate romantic connection.

How to Use These Questions

  • Sit face-to-face with your partner
  • Take turns reading each question aloud
  • Both partners answer before moving to the next card
  • Take the suggested breaks between sets
  • Be honest and open in your responses